To visit, or not to visit? 10 May 2026, Sun
My Dad was taken into hospital yesterday morning by ambulance. After a day of investigation, it seems there's an infection, and they think it's related to, or centred around, his gallbladder.
They admitted him, he's had investigative CT scans etc., and he's been in a ward overnight, with drips and machines that go beep, to stabilise him, before possibly moving him to the ICU pending an operation of some sort.
Don't know when that'll be yet. Depends on how he responds I suppose?
I was getting all this by text messages from my sister yesterday, who still lives nearby and has been keeping me informed. I'm not that far away, about an hour and a half drive, but she's right on the doorstep.
I spoke to my Mum, who had gone in the ambulance with him, but the conversation was tricky as she was unable to hear me that well on the mobile phone in the busy resus ward (from personal experience, the resus ward on a weekend, while the Friday drunken nightclub fight victims are being dealt with, is a noisy place).
Also, my relationship with both of my parents is... difficult at the moment.
This morning my sister has messaged and sent me the details for the ward my Dad is in. I suppose that this is probably some kind of a subtle hint that I should go to visit him today.
However, we haven't spoken since last October, because he was being racist and bigoted (again) and I was tired of it, so after an exasperated expressing of my opinion about his opinions, I just put the phone down on him.
Mum has called me to try to broker a peace, but that was a few months ago, and she ended up annoying me with similar problematic attitudes while she thought she was being extra reasonable anyway.
The pair of them have not bothered to learn, accept, and grow in the changing world. They're stuck in the 1950's attitudes of their youth, and choose not to embrace the world as it is now. A world that was always there, but it was all taboo, illegal, and behind closed doors then.
They knew it was always there, but no one talked about it.
My Mum finished her conversation with me by saying she loved all her grandchildren, but was worried for the sort of world they're finding now, with "criminal immigrants, and all this sexual deviancy with the gays".
I didn't say "It'll be better for them when all their grandparents with backward and stupid opinions like yours are dead and gone," but I definitely should have.
Last I heard from my sister, Dad was still a bit hazy on where he was and what was happening anyway.
Also, I am not really feeling like I should drive today. The MS is making me feel a bit vague.
On balance, I don't think I'll go.
I could make J drive me there if I really wanted to go, but I don't think I do really want to go.
Is it just easy to find the excuses?
Maybe.
Anyway, it's a nice day. Plenty to do in the garden.
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